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Pruning Season: Practical Tips for Simplifying Your Life

By Abby Quillen

It’s the time of year when we prune the rose bushes in our backyard down to a few stalks. For several weeks afterward, they look stark, straggly, and half-dead.

Then an amazing thing happens. By May, they transform into vibrant, healthy bushes overflowing with blossoms.

It’s life-changing to witness this process time and again, because it exemplifies how powerful it is to get rid of what you don’t need.

So around this time of the year, I inevitably find myself taking inventory of all of the stuff in our lives — and feeling a tad buried.

For much of January, I feared I’d never see the floor in Ezra’s room again. I’m in a never-ending battle with the end table in our kitchen, which magnetically attracts loose toy parts, tools, and scraps of paper. And I avoid our garage altogether because I fear I won’t make it through the piles of detritus without spelunking gear.

But I also can’t help but peek back at where we’ve been and celebrate some successes in our quest to live better with less stuff.

Over the years, I’ve discovered a secret to simplifying. It’s not about having less. It’s about figuring out who you are and what you love. Then you can keep and celebrate the things that make you feel alive and happy — and donate or discard the rest.

  • Wardrobe

It’s tempting to think if you have the space to store extra clothes, there’s no harm in keeping them around. But rifling through the stuff littering our lives takes a daily toll. Last year I got rid of more than half of my clothes and all but five pairs of shoes, and every day I feel lighter and happier because of it. Less laundry. Less stress. More space.

Here are a few tips if you’re thinking of dramatically paring down your wardrobe:

1. Your motto is, “If in doubt, throw it out.” Repeat it often.

2. Take the time to figure out what kind of clothes and shoes you really like. You can learn more about what colors look good on you here. And you can explore what styles look good on you here (women) or here (men).

3. Get rid of anything that doesn’t fit right, isn’t flattering, or is damaged.

4. Be aware of emotional attachments to certain clothing items, which make it harder to part with them.

5. Never welcome new clothes into your wardrobe without saying goodbye to some first.

6. Be gracious but judicious about gifts. I’m thankful that my sister gifts me lots of slightly-used clothes. But I’ve had to learn to be a little bit picky about which ones I keep and which ones I pass on to somebody else.

  • Personal care items

Over the years, we’ve traded all of our costly, chemical-laden, heavily-packaged personal care items for simple, safe, inexpensive alternatives. In every single case, the alternatives work better. But the real pay off is how much lighter  our lives are without half-empty plastic bottles and tubes cluttering our bathroom drawers and counters.

If you’re on a mission to downsize your personal care items, here are a few of our favorite swaps:

1. Baking soda and vinegar for shampoo and conditioner.

2. Castile soap for face and bar soap.

3. Castile soap or homemade tooth powder for toothpaste. (Scared to give up commercial toothpaste? So was I. Then I did, and I was amazed. I have cleaner teeth, healthier gums, and no more tooth sensitivity.)

4. A mix of 50/50 baking soda and cornstarch for deodorant.

6. Salt water for mouthwash.

7. Coconut or olive oil for lotion.

Tip: If it feels drab to swap colorful sweet-smelling products for simple alternatives, consider packaging your homemade personal care items in jars, making beautiful labels, and using essential oils to jazz them up.

  • Toys and kids’ clothes

I’ve heard of four-year-olds who clean their rooms, but Ezra is allergic to cleanliness. He delights in transferring all of his toys and books from the tubs, drawers, and shelves I use to try to maintain order in his little corner of our house to the floor.

The other day as I was muttering about the disorder, Ezra diagnosed the problem. “I like it messy, Mom. Then I can find everything.” It was a huge breakthrough. I realized that I’m not going to keep his room clean no matter what I do. So I let it go.

Of course, we still need to get inside his little kingdom, so I decided to try an idea I’ve heard about. I packed up a couple of boxes of his toys and put them in the garage with plans to pull them out in a few weeks in exchange for different toys. The goal is to keep a revolving carousal of toys. That way even when every single toy in the room is on the floor, we can still open the door and move around. So far it’s working great.

We’ve also been purging clothes, books, and toys as Ira outgrows them, and I stumbled onto a brilliant idea to make that easier. An acquaintance of ours throws an annual children’s toy, book, and clothes swap. Parents bring what their kids have outgrown and trade them for things their kids can use now. It’s amazing! You can pare down, hang out with friends, and save money all at the same time. And they’re casual and informal affairs, so it would be easy to organize one yourself.

As the weather warms, we’ll need to sharpen our clippers and tackle some areas desperately in need of pruning, like, ahem, the garage. It’s nice that we can arm ourselves with the glow of a few past successes.

Are you trying to live better with less stuff? Do you have tips, successes, and ideas to share? I’d love to read about it in the comments.

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February 25, 2013Filed Under: Household, Simple Living Tagged With: Decluttering, Minimalism, Organization, Organizing, Parenting, Personal care, Pruning, Simple Living, Spring Cleaning, Wardrobe

The Empty Table

By Abby Quillen

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My husband and I recently achieved the pinnacle of our domestic lives together. We cleared the counter in our laundry room. It was like jumping into a time machine back to the spring of 2008 just before we became parents. Apparently that’s when we last had time for organizing. Handouts from our birthing classes and congratulations-on-the-new-baby-cards mingled with mail, tools, broken toys, and bits of wayward debris. This tucked-away rubbish pile enabled the rest of the house to look relatively tidy and clutter-free. But occasionally one of us would have to suit up and traverse into this danger zone to try to find something. So finally we spent a morning sorting and shredding, recycling and organizing . . . and we unearthed a glistening, white counter.

As we gazed it, the inevitable question arose: what should we put on it? The bill file? The laundry detergent? Cleaning supplies?

Then, it occurred to us.

Nothing.

If we left the counter empty, we could actually use it for folding laundry, brewing beer, or making crafts. For activities, rather than stuff.

I’m in love with our empty counter. I feel happy every time I see it. So I’ve been on a mission lately to empty tables. My desk. The table in my office. The kitchen table and counters. They’re not always empty, of course. There’s nothing I love more than a table full of food or craftiness. But empty is their default state. And when they’re full, they are intentionally so, because someone’s using them.

I’ve taken this empty-table approach into my working life as well. Working at home means maneuvering around the clamor of family life, which is the best and hardest part of it. When I sit down to work, I have to focus regardless of what’s going on in the wider world of my household. I’ve found it immensely helpful to take a few moments to empty my table, so to speak, by focusing on my breath and clearing away any mental clutter before I dig into my work.

Now, if my husband and I can just tackle the garage.

Have you discovered any household tips or tricks that make you happier? Leave me a comment. I’d love to hear about them.

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September 24, 2012Filed Under: Family life, Household, Simple Living Tagged With: Clutter, Family life, Freelance Writing, Household Management, Housework, Organizing, Simple Living, Writing

Simplify Your Time Online

By Abby Quillen

I’ve had no Internet connection or a very spotty one for the last week. I rely on the Internet for my work, not to mention to create this blog, so it’s been frustrating, maddening, and at times, depressing to be disconnected. But it’s also been eye-opening.

During my first hours without the Internet, I thought of dozens of things I “needed” to do, but could not – access my email, download a podcast, read an article, check an account balance, see what I had on hold at the library, etc. I was shocked by how much of my life I’m living virtually – not in the, um, actual world.

After my offline experience, I’m eager to streamline my online time. And I’m going to embrace five strategies toward that end. If you’re also feeling a bit over-connected, here are some things you might try:

1. Consolidate your email

Over the years, I’ve created several email accounts. I have one for my writing business, and one for this blog, and then there’s my personal email and the one I created for newsletters and the like. This multiple-email-address approach has had its advantages, but it’s inefficient. I’m ready to consolidate into one account.

2. Subscribe to your favorite blogs

I read a number of blogs regularly. These are the ones I’ll have delivered directly to my inbox. I don’t want to clutter up my email too much, so I’ll reserve subscriptions for my favorite blogs. (If you want to subscribe to New Urban Habitat, I added a subscription button to the sidebar up there on your right.)

3. Use a feed reader

For the blogs I read on a less regular basis than my favorites, I’ll continue to use my Google feed reader. It makes it easy to read many blogs in one place, but it can also be overwhelming. I find myself only visiting once a week or so. (That’s why I’m going to have my must-reads delivered to my inbox.)

4. Leave the Internet closed while you compose

I love to research, so when I’m writing an article, a blog post, or even an email, I often find myself clicking over to Google to just look up one thing … and then one more thing. I’m amazed by how much more quickly I’ve been writing without Internet access. In the future, when I need to look up something, I’ll make a note of it and do all my research at once.

5. Put Internet-surfing last on your to-do list

When I go online first thing in the morning, quite a few other things on my to-do list tend to go undone. Lately I’ve been doing all my other chores first, which keeps things running more smoothly at home and with my business.

This post is for Steady Mom’s 30 Minute Blog Challenge.

What are your strategies for simplifying online time?

February 1, 2010Filed Under: Household Tagged With: Organizing, Simple Living

Resolve to Get Organized

By Abby Quillen

I’m still astounded by how much harder it is to keep up a household with the addition of just one extra (very small) family member a year and a half ago. Maybe that’s because my son is a wizard at unfolding laundry, removing the contents from cabinets, and tucking away valuables in top-secret hiding spots? In any case, I’m on a mission to get more organized. Here are the seven best ways I’ve come across so far.

1.  Make a home for your keys, wallet, and phone

Do you often find yourself racing around searching for one of these three things? You’re not alone. Designate a place for them and always put them there. It helps if this place has an outlet, so you can plug in your phone.

2.  Say no to junk mail

According to New American Dream, most of us will spend eight months opening junk mail during our lives. The solution? Opt out. I did this 5 years ago, and I don’t miss junk mail at all. Find out how to do it here.

2.  Deal with the mail immediately

It’s hard to motivate yourself to go through the mail when it’s turned into a Leaning Tower of Pisa on the junk table. Open it the instant it arrives, put the bills in a designated area, file what you need to keep, and shred what you don’t. (Organizer Perri Kersh explains what you should keep and what you can safely shred here.)

3.  Do one thing at a time

We’ve all heard it – multitasking is inefficient. But until recently, I often found myself doing six things at once. I’d start one task, get distracted, start another, realize the first wasn’t done, go back to it, notice something else that wasn’t done … you get the picture. I somehow got things done. But I always felt overly-busy and harried. Then the solution dawned on me – a simple checklist. I can’t tell you how much this tool has transformed my life. Learn more here.

3.  Wash, dry, fold, and put away a load of laundry a day

I always imagined that the key to my laundry woes was a fancy laundry sorting system, preferably one with lots of cool, handmade wicker baskets. But it turns out that the more practical, less glamorous solution is just doing a load of laundry start-to-finish every day.

4.  Institute a 30-Minute Family Clean-up

After dinner, turn on some music and clean together for 30 minutes. You may be amazed by how much you get done, and it’s a lot more fun to do it together.

5.  Streamline your Internet time

We all know mindless surfing can eat hours from the day. Sadly, I think the answer to this one is just discipline. Pay attention to where you’re going online and cut out the surfing and blog-reading that’s not adding anything meaningful to your life. Download an add-on such as LeechBlock to keep you away from distractions and stick with it.

6.  Keep a family calendar

Write down everyone’s dates and appointments and what you’re planning to make for meals in one central location. A magnetic dry-erase calendar on the refrigerator works great for this.

7.  Plan your meals

Yes, meal-planning is my answer for everything – even world peace. I wrote about it here.

Do you have any organizing tips?

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January 5, 2010Filed Under: Household Tagged With: Household Management, Meal Planning, Organizational tools, Organizing

The Art of Meal Planning : Save Money, Eat Healthier, and Enjoy Cooking Again

By Abby Quillen

I used to buy a pocket calendar each year – the kind people used to jot appointments and reminders in before Smartphones. I excitedly wrote everyone’s birthdays in it, marked out vacations and holidays … then ditched it somewhere around January 4.

I never seemed to have a problem remembering where I was to be or whom I was to meet. Likewise, I avoided bouncing checks or overdrawing my bank account through most of my twenties without writing any purchases down or actually ever balancing my checkbook. (My mother, who reconciles her account to the penny on the same day of each month, is palpitating and sputtering for air about now.)

I also somehow excelled in college without writing half of my assignments down. So yeah, I might have became a tad cocky in my disregard for organizational tools.

Then I had a baby.

Without actually recounting the disasters that resulted from my lack of organization in the last several months, let’s just say, I’m more forgetful these days. It could be sleep deprivation, or just the sheer number of items on my to-do list. As it turns out, a three-person household is ten times harder to keep up than a two-person household, even with both spouses sharing the load nearly equally. Perhaps it’s because the additional person is hellbent on electrocuting himself, drowning, or licking the cat unless he’s under constant supervision; goes through a load of laundry every six minutes; and has more appointments and play dates than I had all through my twenties? In any case, organizational tools are my new allies. If they can’t save my family from the mountain range of laundry in the guest room, the cavernous refrigerator, or the Leaning Tower of bills on the junk table – nothing can.

The Art of Meal Planning

Of all the organizational tools my family’s adopted in the last few months, meal planning has been the most life-changing. It’s second only to a budget in must-dos to get your finances under control. (My mom will be relieved to hear that we’ve adhered to a budget for a few years now.) For most of us, shaving the grocery bill is the best way to cut back on spending – and let’s face it, most of us are pinching our pennies these days.

A good meal-planning system can cut your grocery bill by hundreds of dollars a month. And it can also help you eat healthier, incorporate more whole foods into your diet, enjoy cooking again, stop those last-minute “let’s just get a pizza” nights, and even help you get along better with your spouse. Are you sold yet?

Meal planning is simple

You can make fancy Excel spreadsheets or Word tables, or you can just draw a grid on a piece of paper. Plan your meals as often as you wish. Most people do it once-a-week or once-a-month. Right now, my husband and I are transitioning from weekly to monthly planning, so we can buy more things in bulk from a local natural foods mail-order supplier – something only made possible with our meal-planning system. But whichever you choose, the idea is to decide what you will make for dinner each night then write the ingredients you’ll need for each meal on your grocery list.

You’ll want to have a few things handy:

  • the circulars from your grocery store (probably available online)
  • coupons (if you clip them – we don’t)
  • favorite cookbooks or recipes
  • in the summer, a list of which veggies are ready to pick from the garden, or abundant at the farmer’s market.

One way to make the planning easier is to institute a “soup and bread night” or “a baked potato night”. I divide my grocery list into sections resembling where things are located in the store, but my husband (who actually does the shopping), assures me it’s unnecessary.

Eat healthier and cook with more whole foods

Meal-planning has enabled me to make more whole-grain, whole-foods meals from scratch almost effortlessly. If I know I’ll be making chili or black-bean tostados the next day, I put dried beans out to soak the night before. So I never buy canned beans anymore. If I know I’ll need bread for a meal, I make a loaf in the morning. Sure it’s a bit harder to soak and simmer beans or make a loaf of bread than it is to open a can of pintos or a bag of Oroweat, but we’re eating healthier for cheaper than ever. Plus, that desperate frustration I used to feel around five p.m., staring into the vacuous refrigerator with a fussy baby in my arms, has entirely evaporated – so it’s a good trade off. I never end up rushing to the store to grab convenience foods for dinner, or ordering take-out at the last minute – things that used to happen frequently.

Plan for domestic harmony

You get how a meal plan can help your finances and your health, but your marriage? Well, my husband and I don’t have exactly the same taste in food. He prefers tater-tots to quinoa, sloppy joes to salads, and bratwurst to rice and beans – and I am, well, the opposite. My husband likes the same predictable meals week after week, whereas I like to mix it up, find recipes in new cookbooks, sample a new whole grain or vegetable each week, and experiment with different herbs and spices. I hate cooking meat and am allergic to dairy, so my dishes are almost always vegan. My husband makes a mean pork roast.

So, we each plan and cook three meals a week, and order take-out the seventh night – and we’re both happy. We try to please each other’s palates to some degree. He hates lentils no matter how they’re seasoned, so I keep those off the menu, and in return, he’s nixed the sloppy joes and often makes me salmon or pasta, which I love.

So, what are you waiting for? Get out that paper and pen. Let’s meal-plan our way to world peace.

March 18, 2009Filed Under: Household, Whole foods cooking Tagged With: Cooking, Housework, Organizing

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